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Non-birth mom with all of the feelings.

Non-birth mom with all of the feelings.

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I have been sitting on this blog post for a long time, unsure of how to start it.  As you well know, I have a toddler on my hands.  One who, from my perspective anyway, is very intelligent and therefore capable of sophisticated psychological warfare.  Couple this with some ripe insecurities about my status as “non-birth mom” and you’ve god a recipe for a mommy feeling all the feelings.  Just recently my child seemed to be experimenting with differentiating by…

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The only lesbian in the room

The only lesbian in the room

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I studied a concept in grad school called racial stress, which is a term to describe discomfort or stress related to interactions that involve race.  It can affect anyone but is particularly detrimental for folks on the receiving end of a racist interaction. Research has shown that it can negatively affect mental and emotional health.  If you’re interested, check out this great article that was published in The Atlantic a few years ago.  This clearly isn’t a blog about race…

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A “Good Enough” Donor

A “Good Enough” Donor

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When Mrs S and I began seriously discussing creating a family together, we knew we wanted to have our own biological children.  We each hoped to carry a child because we both wanted to experience pregnancy.  Since Mrs. S is older, she was first in line for pregnancy.  This was just fine with me because at the time, I wan’t quite ready for an alien invader in my uterus.   Once we started talking in earnest about choosing a donor, I started to feel really really sad.  It hit…

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Mantra March

Mantra March

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As you may have gleaned by now, I have been struggling with motherhood. I know this comes up for many folks, particularly in the first six months, as everyone (including baby) adjusts to the new family order.  To acknowledge the obvious: parenting is hard, people.  See image below, this is what it feels like most of the time. It’s way harder than I ever imagined, but I think that’s because I was imagining the wrong things.  Describing the challenges of parenting to expectant…

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Eating my feelings, Part 1

Eating my feelings, Part 1

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I cried several times last week.  I admitted this to my mom’s “support group” but rather than affirming my experience (as I was expecting) I heard crickets.  I thought being a mom meant we all had a hard time and then talked about it.  I can’t be the only mom who cries sometimes…right?   On Wednesday I made it to mama and baby yoga (win!).  The class was lovely and I felt calm and grounded despite a mid-class tantrum from The Beast.  Afterwards, a few moms…

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